New Years Resolutions - It’s ok, keep going!

As the clock strikes midnight on New Year's Eve, many of us embark on a journey of self-improvement through New Year's resolutions. Whether it's getting fit, learning a new skill, or having healthier relationships, the excitement of a fresh start fuels excites and drives us. However, as the days pass, the initial fervor tends to ware off and resolutions often find themselves abandoned. Let's dive into the details of why resolutions falter and explore ways to help you stay on the path of personal growth.

Why Resolutions Fall Through:

    1. Unrealistic Expectations:

One common pitfall is setting lofty, unrealistic goals. While aiming high is commendable, it's crucial to ensure your resolutions are attainable. Unrealistic expectations can lead to frustration and demotivation, ultimately derailing your progress.  Examples of unrealistic expectations are honestly dependent on the person setting the goal/resolution.  You know yourself and your work ethic.  Set realistic expectations for yourself and just keep ticking off your list until you can feel confident in reaching those bigger goals.

    2. Lack of Planning and Accountability:

Many resolutions crumble due to a lack of concrete plans and accountability. Setting clear, actionable steps and involving a friend or a mentor can significantly increase the chances of success. Without a plan of action, resolutions become mere aspirations.  If you set a resolution to go to the gym and get ripped/fit then you need to go no matter the weather or your drive.  Let yourself slip once and you’ll get comfortable making excuses to continue slipping until you aren’t even going anymore.

    3. All-or-Nothing Mentality:

The tendency to view setbacks as complete failures is a significant obstacle. Embracing a growth mindset and understanding that challenges are a natural part of the journey allows for resilience and ongoing commitment.  Being kind to yourself is knowing that we are human.  We will fall on our faces from time to time.  The difference between your mentor or partner is that they will get up and keep running.  Will you?  Will you be kind to yourself and let yourself understand and move on to continue?

How to Persevere:

I’ve always had important people in my life tell me to break everything down into smaller tasks.

i.e.     “I am going to eat healthy.”

Let’s break this down…

    - Do research on what is healthy for me and my body while looking at different dietary ideas.

    - Create a weekly food calendar and plan out my meals.

    - Write a grocery list according to that food schedule and make sure I have all the ingredients necessary.

    - Make time to meal prep food or ensure that a system is in place so that I eat healthy at every meal.

In the face of adversity, resilience becomes the key to maintaining resolutions. When the going gets tough, break down your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Celebrate small victories along the way, fueling your motivation to continue the journey.

Starting Over:

If resolutions veer off course, don't be disheartened. Use setbacks as learning opportunities, reassess your goals, and make necessary adjustments. Remember, the journey towards self-improvement is ongoing, and every step forward, no matter how small, is a triumph.

The Importance of SMART Goals:

To dive in and better your resolution-setting process, consider using the SMART goal outline — Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. For example, rather than a vague goal like "exercise more," set a SMART goal like "walk briskly for 30 minutes, five days a week, for the next three months."

As we navigate the intricate path of New Year's resolutions, let's embrace the challenges and celebrate the victories, no matter how small. By setting realistic goals, staying accountable, having resilience, and incorporating the SMART goal outline, you can transform resolutions into lasting habits. Remember, the journey of self-improvement is a marathon, not a sprint.